Friday, April 25, 2008


Beatrix and I ran errands all morning, preparing for work events.

Tonight, Nautilus is performing two shows simultaneously:

- A FREE showcase at the studio (308 Prince St in St. Paul, the Northern Warehouse by the Farmer's Market) as part of the St. Paul Art Crawl. Free food, too! We'll be there, with the baby!

- Performance #4 of Ricky Ian Gordon's ORPHEUS & EURIDICE at the Pantages Theater in downtown Minneapolis. The piece is really incredible, and also runs tomorrow night and Sunday afternoon. Tickets are $29.50 and 2-for-1 if you mention "NAUTILUSDANCE" -- get them at the door to avoid evil Ticketmaster fees.

See some art this weekend!

Sunday, April 20, 2008

Your Mother - The Person You Can't Say "No" To

So last night, in a particularly non-inspirational setting (the car, on Highway 94), I finally put my finger on one reason I feel family-bereft, even though by all "rational" thoughts I shouldn't. Our incredible friends, our not-quite-so-immediate family (especially my aunt and uncle), and our neighbors (who also count as friends!) have been really wonderful at stepping in to fill the gap, and we appreciate it and love them. And of course I still have my dad, and Patrick's mother and his father exist, though far away. Even total strangers at the restaurant the other day offered to step in and be honorary grandmothers to Beatrix. So why exactly is it not the same?

And then I realized that, in an email to my aunt earlier that day, I had expressed some concerns about not going to a spot they had suggested for mother's day brunch — something along the lines of "or we just don't have to go, no big deal." And, you know, I could NEVER have said that to my mother. If my mother wanted me to do something, I just kind of had to do it. Don't get me wrong, often it was fun; but it was always, somehow, required. Same with Patrick's mom, when she lived here — if she called a *family meeting,* he had to be there. For some reason, it's not the same with dads, and I don't know why.

So, for all those people involved in our lives, we're probably glad for our over-scheduled everyday calendars that we can say "no" to you. But at the same time, it's a little sad.

Monday, April 7, 2008

Tuned In and Connected

Well, I've managed to get myself generally up and running in the virtual world, with bonus points for almost all of it being one-handed typing while dealing with the baby:

- I've been posting and keeping up with my on-line women's community, though the best part has been seeing the TC-Alts in real life!
- I've put up some recipes on a shared wiki.
- I am now on Facebook, so friend me! I decided against MySpace, though, because I am Just.Too.Old.
- I'm also on Twitter, as bethanyg. Still on AIM as popothecat, but not on it so much right now.
- I have a flickr account that is woefully underused.
- I am up on GoodReads — do you think they count ebooks because...
- I ordered a Kindle, though the wait is interminable. While I've been waiting, I've lurked (mostly) on their discussion boards and posted a little. I've also started an Amazon Wish List, though it has to be under Elizabeth Gladhill because that's billing name they have on file.
- I opened an RME account and was happy to get the free $25.
- We started a Netflix account, and watched a lot of movies and tv series on dvds while up at all hours.
- Soon I'll have a new website up and running!

Meanwhile, Patrick has been blogging like crazy and is re-designing his site, plus working on his schedule to make more time for clients (so let him know if you need any computer support).

I can't say that all of this has completely revolutionized every part of my life, but it has certainly made some things a lot easier, and especially with my time so limited right now, I'll take all the help I can get!

EDITED: I forgot that I set up a Revolution Money Exchange (RME) account! I blogged about this earlier, but during the beta phase they are offering $25 just for setting one up, plus $10 for me if I refer you, theoretically from the following link:

Refer A Friend using Revolution Money Exchange

Sunday, April 6, 2008

I've Been Tagged

i was tagged on my friend Jamie's blog:

The rules in this game of tag are simple -- once you have been tagged, you must write a blog with ten weird, random things, little known facts or habits about yourself. At the end choose 10 people to be tagged and list their names. Don't forget to leave a comment that says 'you've been tagged' and tell them to read your latest blog. Since you can't tag me back (ha!)...let me know when you've posted your blog so I can see it.

1. When I was in elementary school I added about a gazillion middle names to what I wanted to be called. So to "Elizabeth Lee" I added "Colleen Katharine Sabrina Nina Patricia Laura Sarah..." Maybe that's why I think it's ok that my daughter has two middle names.
2. When I dyed a blue streak in my hair in college it was from RIT dye in the costume shop and inspired by Missing Persons.
3. I swore up and down before the baby was born that we would not co-sleep, and now we do, nightly after the heart-of-darkness feeding.
4. I don't dislike tv because I am too good for it, but rather because I get completely sucked in by whatever is on ( "The Suite Life of Jack and Cody," anyone?)
5. When I stopped picking my fingernails I started on my toenails, and they are now short and wide and hobbit-like.
6. I almost never listen to my iPod, still prefer cds over digital music, have never bought from iTunes, and my beloved mix and live tapes are still in the basement.
7. When I was growing up, my mom took all the doorknobs off the interior doors of our house so that she could paint them, and never got around to putting them back on (they still aren't). So I grew up in a house where you never really closed the door.
8. I am used to always being pretty good at what I do, and (one of, at least) the youngest people doing it, which added to the equation. Now that I am no longer the youngest, I worry that I am just average.
9. I vastly prefer milk in paper cartons rather than plastic bottles, and can always tell the difference. (I think it probably has something to do with the light that is let in changing the flavor somewhat).
10. I suck at chain letters, I never mind participating but HATE HATE HATE putting people on the spot to continue. I would rather piss off the person who brought me in by only half doing it than piss off 10 people by bringing them in if they don't want to. So I'm not going to tag 10 people, but I would love to know others' 10 random facts (do you think 10 people even read this blog?)

Saturday, April 5, 2008

Too Much Cancer

I've just been reading my friend Martha's blog. Marty is our neighbor's daughter, a 36-year old who I've always connected with because she lived in Taiwan and Hong Kong. She has 3 young children, and was just diagnosed with breast cancer, which is at Stage II. Reading her blog is really difficult for me because it reminds me so much of everything we went through with my mom, and she's so young.

I want to say she's going to "beat" the cancer. But the truth is that there is nothing that one does "right" in order to survive, or "wrong" to have it get worse. No one deserves to get it, or is immune from it, and family history or personal habits are not good indicators. Cancer is indiscriminate and impersonal and viciously kills the body that hosts it. But I do know that having love and support can help, and I want to give her as much support as I can.

I also have an on-line friend who I first "met" on a thread about parents with a terminal illness (her father has brain cancer). His cancer has recently progressed to Stage IV, and I have recently met her IRL through a strange set of circumstances, which puts a more immediate face on it as well.

I just wish cancer did not exist.

Thursday, April 3, 2008


Didn't mean to leave you hanging after the last rant-y post. I've been busy, but nothing too exciting, just general baby-care and trying to catch up on work.

Anyway, I meant to say that, after some horrific errands on Saturday (in which I waited 20 minutes at Home Despot to have them clear up an issue with a gift card, and it's STILL not resolved!), I decided to stop at Krispy Kreme on the way home and bring back some Fresh Hot Donuts.

Except the Krispy Kreme had turned into a Wendy's.

I suppose there are really two issues here. The first is how interchangeable the sites are. No more donuts? How about a Frostie? Turnkey ready. Maybe next month it will become an Arby's.

The second point, though, goes to the Krispy Kreme brand. I remember when people lined up for them, drove miles for them; I even had a friend who would have them FedExed from the nearest location, which was in Iowa, mind you! But then they started to spread, and be sold at Holiday, and Target, and pretty much all over. They no longer special or unusual. They also were not very good — deprived of the whole Fresh Hot thing, they are kind of stale and poofy, and not really even as good as Little Debbie Swiss Cake Rolls.

I miss the Krispy Kreme. But they did it to themselves.